Friendship – Are we unequally yoked?


Being yoked to something means to be tethered to or be in close relationship with another.  You can be unequally yoked in a marriage, but did you know it can apply to friendships also?

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In 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 Paul writes,  “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.  For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?  Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?  What harmony is there between Christ and Belial (devil)?  What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?  What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?

For we are the temple of the living God.  As God has said:  ‘I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.  Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.  Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.  I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.’ ”

Can you be unequally yoked as friends??  Absolutely!

Don’t compromise who’s in your circle

Remember who you are.  You’re a daughter/son of the King.  You represent Him in all that you do.  Don’t submit to peer pressure.  Yes, we even experience it as adults.  Choose friends that share your same love for the Lord and grow together.   Love others but don’t be in close relationship with those who don’t share your same faith because they can pull you down.

Don’t stop growing hoping the other person will catch up to you

When you are unequally yoked as friends, you may want to “slow down” your growth so that your friend may catch up to you.  This is also a type of compromise but it just means that is not the best friend for you on this leg of your journey.  As friends, iron sharpens iron, but that means both are growing.  Friends should not pull you down or feel like a weight.  Friendships should be developing and changing and becoming more like Christ.  He is always the focus.  Don’t compromise your growth to keep your friend.

Stay alert and in obedience to the Lord

Obeying the Lord can be tough when it comes to friendships.  Sometimes we outgrow our friends.  Maybe a friend that was once good for you, is no longer and you have to be willing to let go. He will guide you with His gentle or sometimes loud voice and through His Word.  His Spirit will tell you who to be friends with and who is not a good match for you if you let Him.

And honestly, Jesus is your best friend!  He will never leave you or forsake you. I talk to Him like I would another friend all throughout my day and you know what?  He loves it! He delights in me and He does in you too!

Keep Christ at the center of your life and your relationships 

This is my prayer.  In every relationship, be intentional about keeping Christ at the center.  You will experience a richness and be tremendously blessed when you do this.  You will find so much joy!  He brings people together for His purpose and for His glory!




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